In life there are bad ending and good endings

Hope Again is a place created to help with the bad endings and how they have affected us. I have been on a journey with Hope Again over the last ten months and now as I reach the end of my time here I see that this is a good ending and I’m thankful for that.

Ten months ago I didn’t know where this job would take me but I never would have guessed that I would learn so much. I’ve read hundreds of emails about some terrible times in people’s lives but the one thing everyone had in common was hope. Even if they didn’t mention the word, behind their stories and their words was hope. They may not have experienced much hope yet, but they were looking for it, and hopefully we were able to provide a little bit.

Grief can isolate you and one of the things I wanted this website to provide was a common ground between young people—a little island of commonality were people could relate to each other and maybe help each other. I hope that we have been able to achieve that and I trust this website continues to be a safe place for young people looking for a little bit of hope.

Why not jot here a one-sentence response telling us where you last caught a glimmer of hope in your every-day world?

Bridget Molloy, Youth Web Consultant

A few quick questions

We'd like to hear how people are using Hope Again and would appreciate it if you could comment on any of the questions below by Monday 17th August. Thanks very much!

1. Would you recommend Hope Again to anyone else?

2. What do you think is the most important service this website provides?

3. What is one thing you like and one thing you would change about Hope Again?

Thanks very much for your comments it will help us improve our service.

Father's Day

Every year I see without fail the same patterns occur around Father's Day:

My peers and acquaintances getting flustered and edgy when it's mentioned because to them the date can't be brought up around me in case I burst into tears and become inconsolable.

In fact, most avoid the topic of my Father altogether for fear of a similar reaction. Truthfully though avoiding the topic of bereavement is understandable, whether or not it would provoke an emotional reaction, most people would just rather not take the risk.

Nevertheless, being a bereaved child is by no means the taboo that some regard it to be. Hopefully by sharing, talking and supporting each other we can help dispel such myths.

Patrick, guest blogger

Would you comment here about your first Mother/Father's Day without your parent?

Help us out in 50 words or less!

Grief can be very isolating, you can feel that no-one in the world understands what you are going through so you might as well keep it to yourself. That’s not true. Hope Again may be the place where you find the living proof from someone else who has been through it that you’ll be OK.

Could you help us populate this page with pieces of hope that might help someone else break through the isolation of grief?

      In 50 words or less comment here on what helped you discover that you would be OK, that you could hope again.

Hello and Welcome to Hope Again!

Bereavement. It sounds long and complicated but not worthy of the storm that comes after someone you love dies--like all those emotions can be neatly tied up in one little word.

A big part of my job as a young volunteer for Cruse Bereavement Care is to try and put my experience into words and often it can be hard and frustrating.

But most of the time it’s easy--all the emotions I felt can be summed up in a paragraph or two, which seems odd now, looking back on the months after my Mum died. I was 15 and I was sad, angry, miserable and desperate for answers.

Why did this happen? How am I going to get through it? What am I supposed to do now?

At Cruse, we offer help and support for people of all ages asking those questions. Hope Again is our online place for young people. Here you can:

Get those emotions into words and tell us what happened to you,
Read other young people’s stories,
Get advice from other young people,
Or post a picture on our Pinterest page.

Here, we hope that you can find some common ground, relate to other young people and begin to hope again.

Why don’t you start us off and tell us something that made you hope again after someone you love died?