And just like that, it’s June again. For some, it may be your very first without your special person. For others, well.. we’ve been here before. In the weeks leading up to this day, the slow reminders start to creep in. The adverts on tv, the card aisle in the super market, even the ‘Eugh, I don’t know what to get my dad this Father’s Day!’, remarks begin. And while you share an understanding of the stress of gift giving… you really really, wish it could be you.
To all those wishing it were you, I’m sorry. I’m sorry you have to miss this person so much that it hurts. I’m sorry you have to scroll on social media trying to dodge all the dedication posts while wiping the tears. I’m sorry you have to think of the ‘should have’s’ and the ‘what if’s’. From one young bereaved person to another, I’m sorry. But, there’s comfort in that fact. You’re not alone in your loss. On the 18th especially and every other day surrounding that, please know that there are others who feel just like you, others who miss their loved one just like you.
So, this Father’s Day - do whatever feels right for you. Have a cry, a scream, a laugh- walk down memory lane. Whatever brings you the most peace and allows you to feel closest to your loved one.. do just that. You can also take a look at our Father’s Day page for more tips and advice on how to make the days ahead that bit easier.
Always remember, you matter, your grief matters and so does your loved ones memory. As long as you live, in a sense so do they. Memories forever shared is a precious soul never forgotten.
If you are a young person and feel you are in need of some extra support - please reach out to us: hopeagain@cruse.org.uk.
If you are an adult, you can make contact with your local Cruse office here: www.cruse.org.uk.
You can also call the freephone Cruse helpline on: 0808 808 1677 - the opening hours are:
Monday-Friday 9.30am-3pm
Look after yourself for the week ahead and know that there is always someone ready to support you.
