No cure for grief...

And thats the honest truth- no cure for grief. Even when we hope so much that something tangible could fix the pain.. in reality, the only thing that could offer any comfort would be our loved one - oh the irony.

The only thing closest to a ‘cure’ is to feel. To sit with your grief and let it flow - not to ignore every aspect of it but to bare all and feel every single piece of it. It’s not easy, it’s exhausting.. but it’s the closest we will ever get to a cure. The closest we can ever feel to our loved one again is to grieve.

If you need somewhere to vent, send us an email at: hopeagain@cruse.org.uk. You can even send us your personal story - we’d love to feature it on our website - sharing your story shows others that they are never alone.

We are a community of young people, grieving together whilst always remembering our favourite people.

Love - the everlasting connection

Love.. the deepest connection which continues long past physical being. We often hear that grief is just love with no place to go. Where there is deep grief, deep love carries on forever. Never see you grief as your weakness, it has evolved you in more ways than one, for the good and the bad.

Understandably, accepting your grief doesn’t make you miss your loved one any less and it doesn’t end the grieving process. See your grief as the everlasting piece of string keeping you and your loved one together. Take it easy on days when you are missing your special one most.

A message to those supporting us - Choose empathy

This is all that young people ask for in their grief.. not sympathy and not for someone to try and make it all better. Just someone who empathises with the heart-breaking situation we have been forced into, through no fault or choice of our own. All we want is empathy and a piece of understanding.

Choose to walk alongside us, don’t try to fix our grief.. help us to carry it on days when we are feeling weighed down. Help us to honour and remember our loved one, be the listening ear we so desperately need but may not ask for.

#NationalSiblingsDay

Today is #NationalSiblingsDay

Sibling loss is often a side of grief which is overlooked and undermined. This quote by Dr Horsley speaks volumes upon how significant and world-changing the loss of a sibling can really be: ‘Most siblings will spend 80% to 100% of their lifetimes with their siblings on this earth…it is a really, really big deal to lose a sibling - very significant. But it’s very unacknowledged’.

Today at Hope Again, we are sending love to anyone who has lost a sibling.. or lost someone who may not be blood but fits perfectly into that role.

We’re sorry if you are missing your special sibling. We see you and we stand with you today, take time to honour the memory of your sibling.

Do what feels right for you.

It was love and I lived in it, it is grief and I will carry it - Chloe Frayne

Forever and always, grief is the price we pay for everlasting love. Just because you carry it well doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy, take time to rest. Loving and missing someone no longer physically here is hard.. don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t or make you feel like you should have ‘moved on’ by now. That grief is yours, you decide how to feel it and how to wear it!

You will continue to carry your grief, through all the wonderful and testing times you may face. Remember, you never have to carry it alone, share your grief with those around you.