You might know exactly what to do when that grief wave hits, or you might have no clue at all. It’s important to know that you don’t need to have it figured out. Truth is, no-one has grief sussed out. Just when we thought we did… bang - a brand new feeling or emotion is unlocked and we feel right back to square one.
We wanted to share with you some ideas for what you can do on a day that feels more ‘griefy’ than others:
Take time out to journal - writing your thoughts and feelings down in one place can be really empowering. It can also help to ‘declutter’ your busy mind.
Breathing exercises and meditation - you can download free apps or take to YouTube to find specific exercises or meditation techniques that are right for you.
Spend time outdoors - choose to re-connect with nature. Studies show that spending time outdoors can significantly improve mental well-being (an area which is massively impacted by grief).
Have a lazy day/ take a nap - its important to re-charge, grief can be exhausting - if napping is your thing, take time out for that and don’t feel guilty about it.
Spend time with your nearest and dearest - some people feel best supported in their grief when being around those who understand them most.
Binge watch your favourite TV show or movies - set time aside to chill and do something you enjoy, whether that’s alone or with someone you love.
Make time to reminisce - some people find comfort in looking through photographs, eating their loved ones favourite food or going to a place you use to enjoy together.
Accept how you feel, no matter how that looks - give space to your grief and all the emotions that come with it. Losing a loved one is world-halting, your new thoughts and feelings are normal.
Write a letter to your loved one - put everything you wish you could say in one place. It’s a lovely way to honour the bond you still share with them.
Read a book, maybe even a grief book - feeling connected to others who understand can really help to break the isolation which loss can create. Reading about grief can also help you to better understand your own thoughts and feelings.
Remember, there is no right or wrong way to grieve - no rule book to follow. Grief is a journey rather than a destination. Look after your head and heart, grief is just love. We feel grief so deeply because we have loved and continue to love - grief is sadly the price we pay. Never forget that you are not alone in your loss. There is a community of young people across the world who have been and will be right where you are - navigating life without their special loved one. Find comfort in that fact, but know that when it feels to heavy to carry, that you can reach out for support.
If you’d like to connect with a bereaved young person, send us an email at: hopeagain@cruse.org.uk.
